June is Men’s Health Month

It’s June, which means it’s Men’s Health Month. Along with encouraging men to eat healthy, stop tobacco or vape use (or avoid starting), and limit alcohol intake, it’s also important to talk about men’s mental health.

In Wyoming, men are raised to be tough. The old adage “real men don’t cry” is still widely recognized here. But what may not be as well-known is this: men are four times more likely to die by suicide than women in the U.S. Even more alarming, Wyoming ranks among the states with the highest suicide mortality rates, second only to Montana and Alaska.

Why is this important? Because we often fail to look at these statistics in a personal way. These numbers aren’t just data points. They mean that your husband, your father, your son could be at risk.

We need to change this—and change starts at home.

Start by listening to the men in your life. Encourage them to be open with their feelings. (No, this doesn’t come easy for our cowboy types!) Watch for signs of disconnection—are they pulling away from people they were once close to? Help them reestablish those connections.

Try not to judge. Help them find resources if they need them. Know that certain groups such as military members, first responders, and those in healthcare often face a higher risk of PTSD, survivor guilt, and other mental health challenges. Watch for signs of social isolation, especially if they’ve experienced trauma.

Men often hide their struggles behind a tough exterior. Depression and anxiety can look different in men. You might see:

Increased irritability or anger over seemingly minor things

Restlessness or an inability to relax

Withdrawal or loss of interest in hobbies

Risky behaviors

Changes in sleep (either too much or not enough)

If a man in your life is showing these signs, reach out. Offer to listen. Help them reconnect. Many men won’t go to counseling and forcing them to go can sometimes backfire. Instead, be someone they feel safe opening up to. Let them vent. Or just sit with them in silence, so they know they’re not alone.

The “John Wayne types” might not find it easy to talk, but just knowing that you’re there for them might be just what they need.

Help the men in your life know it’s okay to show emotion. Even John Wayne cried.

(Rain Potter is a family nurse practitioner at Three Rivers Health.)